The Other Day my wife and I were cleaning our house before our friends came over, our youngest daughter who just turned one not too long ago, was walking around the living room and kitchen having a ball. Then a knock at the door came, she quickly ran into the kitchen where I was standing, walked behind me, and nudged herself in between my legs with both arms wrapped around my calf muscles. I didn’t think much of it at the time – but I was her safe zone, no matter who or what came through that door as long as daddy or mommy was there she was content, confident, and safe.
Protection and shelter are needed for our daughters. We can’t keep them safe from everything. Often times a little bit of pain in life will turn out to the opposite of what we would think. Instead of hurting or hindering them it can act as a personal reminder of the situation or action and act as a motivator for personal growth. However in certain storms they need a safe haven they can come home too. They need a shelter built on faithfulness, morality, and most importantly unconditional Love.
3 areas your daughter needs shelter.
There are certain situations where guys don’t think about – walking home at night or entering a hotel room alone. For our daughters these instances could make them highly vulnerable. Often times women are aware of these vulnerabilities and get filled with fear or anxiety this situation comes up. As Dads, we need to be aware of this and be on guard as a dispatcher or first responder. Knowing that Dad is a phone call or text away at a moment’s notice helps curb some of the fear and anxiety and instills confidence and security in our daughters.
It is also a good idea to start teaching out daughters about the dangers of the world at a young age. Make sure you teach them how to protect themselves if they were ever to fall into a sticky situation, this will also help instill confidence when the moment arises. Heaven forbid but if she does get hurt, nothing is better than a big bear hug from Dad and a kiss on the forehead. Remember back to when she was little and all she wanted was for Daddy to hold her tight in her arms, the same applies anytime she gets hurt no matter if she is 5 or 25.
Ok Dads I know this is a touchy subject, but as a father or four girls dare I say it is the most important. Women and girls ask themselves this question every day, “Am I lovable?” No one has a more strong voice in answering that question than their father. If our daughters feel like the answer is no or vague it will cause self-doubt and insecurity. Let’s face it our girls are going to be on constant attack from other girls, immature guys, and unfortunately some other parents & adults. Your daughter needs a constant and consistent reminder from you that
“Yes she is lovable.”
“Yes, she is beautiful and yes, you will love her more and more no matter what happens!”
Fill her with grace and love every day!!
Media today has diluted the way a women “think she’s supposed to look”; chances are this is going to be very different from how she sees herself in the mirror. She will get attacked with from several different media outlets that try to dehumanize her and reduce her to thinking she is just a sex object. The problem isn’t that they are putting that in front of her, the problem is if she believes that. That’s where we as Dads come in! The truth is that God sculpted each and every one of us – he made our daughters full of beauty, purpose, and uniquely individual. Protect that. Give her plenty of prayer cover so this God-given truth is ingrained in her head and never lost. Tell her each and every day how magnificent and precious she truly is because God made her that way.
On her wedding day, (gulp) your daughter will walk down the aisle, meet her husband at the altar, and get married under the grace of GOD. She will be moving out from your shelter and underneath her husband’s. The structure and qualities of the new shelter she chooses depends hugely on the way your care and love her now.